[VENT] Please don't whinge to me.

[Cherished]

Huge hugs OP. I really feel for you. I know just what you are going through. I was pregnant 4 times in 2009 and thankfully the last time was sticky and we ended up with our beautiful ds in 2010. At the time we didn't tell anyone about what we were going through. Every time a friend was announcing their pregnancy it was like a stab in my heart especially the friends who had their babies around the same time ours were due. Now I am going through a different kind of pain as those friends are announcing their 2nd pregnancies and my dh has decided that he doesn't want another baby I'm not coping well at all with it. It's hard but remember you are not alone. I hope you get to feel another buba growing inside you again.

[OceanPrincess]

...breaks my heart when my dd points to my belly and says baby gone mummy sad

I bet it does I wish we never had to deal with things like that. My DD brings it up every now and then too... always makes me cry...

LOL Sloane I was like "YEP! Wine me up."

Pac, thanks for validating that it is ok. I suspect my lovely PMS hormones were running a bit wild yesterday and making everything 100 times worse...

[OceanPrincess]

Huge hugs OP. I really feel for you. I know just what you are going through. I was pregnant 4 times in 2009 and thankfully the last time was sticky and we ended up with our beautiful ds in 2010. At the time we didn't tell anyone about what we were going through. Every time a friend was announcing their pregnancy it was like a stab in my heart especially the friends who had their babies around the same time ours were due. Now I am going through a different kind of pain as those friends are announcing their 2nd pregnancies and my dh has decided that he doesn't want another baby I'm not coping well at all with it. It's hard but remember you are not alone. I hope you get to feel another buba growing inside you again.

Oh hun... Massive hugs to you too cherished.

So many people going through all sorts of different pain...

[~TT40~]

*massive hugs OP*

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[~Hestia~]

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry.

I remember feeling exactly the same way last year. One friend was particularly full on in her pregnancy whinging. I used to get all worked up inside, not just because of my own loss, but also because I know of so many gorgeous girls on here who would be so happy to have these complaints! Now she complains about missing being pregnant

it's not easy but were all here for you.

[Joeve]

It's hard and to be honest I think many of us had no idea either before it happened to us. Take some time away from the pregnant friends that's what I had to do. Hugs x

[RockingBaker]

[OceanPrincess]

Thank you everyone. I really appreciate the support.

I'm feeling better about things. I've bought myself a BBT and I'm going to start temping and charting in an attempt to take back some of the control... I hate that it feels so much like it is out of my control, it is really affecting me this time...

[Emma09]

OP-
You know I'm always here for you...
Anytime, anywhere


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[OceanPrincess]

Thanks Em, I know

[kristi14]

One thing i made a very big point of doing after losing a baby at 19wks, was to never complain about anything during my pregnancies again. I appreciated every bit of it.

Like you, it upset me to hear pregnant women complain about their pregnancies, it still does.

Appreciate it, savour every second of it.

I totally understand why you feel the way you do xxx

[diva det]

hugs hun
no advice- just hugs and a friendly ear
you wanna come over for a cuppa and the kids can play?
always here with an ear
xxx

[feeb]

Hugs hun I have been there and through that and it really sucks, some people just have no idea how lucky they are.

Surround yourself with those who you are comfortable with to talk to, cry, hug, ***** and chat with xoox

[peanutter]

mega hugs, my love

what you're feeling is so valid, and I wish people around you were more aware of what they say, and how it might impact their fellow women ...

I'm sure your Tuesday friend will understand, and hopefully your sister understands better now too.

thinking of and praying for you, sweet xoxo

[forshelby]

It's so hard. I know. Sometimes people mistake silence for 'being over it'. When really you feel just as raw as the day it happened. Then there's the insensitive comments......... and the complainers.

I'm really glad you've got some people IRL to talk to though, turn to them when things get rough. And us of course.

[MummyNaomi]

Hugs OP

I have screamed in rage and plotted the murders of many whinging pregnant workmates ( in my head of course ) while TTC unsuccessfully time and time again and although a loss and infertility are two very different things the feelings towards ungrateful pg ppl seems to be the same when all you want is to be pregnant yourself.

So my point is vent and rage away, I'll listen and offer a shoulder

X x


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[OceanPrincess]

Thanks everyone.

I spoke with my sister a while ago to see what they were up to tomorrow and she asked how I'm feeling today, which was nice. Maybe she will realise that, as you say forshelby, just because I don't talk about it doesn't mean I am "over it".

You're never really "over it", I think.

[diva det]

no you dont ever get over it. my kids still talk about the baby i lost
they still dont get it totally and they were 6 years old when it happened
hugs hun